Whether you go kicking and screaming is something else entirely.
It's a new year. We've fought through 2020 with valor, and honestly, I think we can all agree that we deserve a break. Unfortunately, we are not out of the woods, yet.
There's something to be said about the transitions we make in life. There is a collective awareness of some of them, like the beginning of the new year and the celebration of a birthday, but others are a little less obvious.
So, how do we become more aware of the changes happening in our lives and how do we remain open to applying them to ourselves and our goals?
It's no secret that as much as change is inevitable, more often than not, we are fighting it with everything we've got. This is especially true if these transitioning periods appear out of the blue and surprise us.
Some big examples of unexpected—and often unwelcome—change are sudden loss or death, being fired from your job, having your flight get cancelled while you're already at the airport, or car accidents. Yet, it's ironic that these things actually could be predictable had you been open to their possibilities.
But more than being emotionally thrown off course, there is something about each of these situations, and many others that involve change, that show us some amount of potential.
With death, that should be somewhat predictable. Everyone and everything living on this earth will eventually die. Sure, it may not be timely, but is death truly ever that way?
My suggestion to those of you struggling with these transitions is to sit down and make a list of the ways in which you are learning from the experience and honoring yourself in the process. Just because one part of your life is shifting does not mean you must lose the foundation of yourself as you do it.
And more than that, we are constantly changing in the most minor ways. In fact, I will bet that you are not the same person as you were at five years old. And I bet you won't be the same person at 100 that you are right now.
So, how does this relate to your writing practice? Something I've come to notice through my coaching is the struggle people have with releasing the writer that they have been in order to become the author that they want to be.
It seems like it would be a simple enough transition, but you would be amazed how many people fear the unknown possibilities that this particular life change has to offer. And this is true for all shifts into new and greater areas of life.
After all, I bet any married couple you speak to will have something to say about the transition they had to make from being engaged to married.
I think at the end of the day, it really comes down to your mindset, though. I mentioned remaining open to the possibilities was key to an easier transition, and this remains true across the board.
Just know that even if the change isn't what you thought it would be, you can always change again.
Survive is finally available for reading!
We look forward to taking you on this journey with us that is already several years in the making!
Lexi Mohney is an award-winning, self published author and a book coach living in Ann Arbor, MI. Throughout her writing and coaching career, she's lived by the motto of "six seconds of insane courage," and worked with her own coaches, groups, and support system to see her Big Audacious Dreams come true. Her greatest goal is to help others achieve success of their own. Her first published piece, Carnal Knowledge, won an award at the 7th Annual Bisexual Book Awards in NYC on June 1, 2019. These days, you can find her working with clients or on her own writing (you can't have writer's block on multiple books at once). Contact her through her website or on social media.